The worries that drag us down and holds us back from living the life we deep down dream about.
So I would like to just quickly share one tip that helps me out with this issue.
It is a simple two question combination that I have asked myself over and over until it became a habit. And until the questions often pop up automatically in my head in worry-inducing situations.
The first question goes like this:
How many of the things I worried would happen in my life did actually happen?
Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind.
And worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is, of course, easy to say.
But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.
So I ask myself this question to remind myself of how few of the things that I have worried about over the years that have actually become real.
When fears feel vague in your mind, when you lack clarity then it is very easy to get lost in exaggerated worries and disaster scenarios.
So find clarity in a worry-inducing situation by asking yourself:
Honestly and realistically, what is the worst that could happen?
When I have answered that question then I follow it up with spending a little bit of time on figuring out what I can do about it if that pretty unlikely thing happens.
In my experience, the worst that could realistically happen is usually not as scary as what my mind could make up when it is running wild with vague fears.
Spending a few minutes on finding clarity in this way can save you a whole lot of time, energy and suffering.
I hope this question combo will help you too to calm yourself down and to think more clearly and optimistically again.
Have a wonderful Sunday and week ahead!
Chris
